In the Blog - gorgeous, by the way - http:cienciasdelafamilia-tenerife.blogspot.com.es I found the following article, originally published in Christianity Today (summer 2006, Vol. 23, n2, p. 42) and whose authorship corresponds to Jill Savage (www.jillsavage.org), founder of www.hearts-at-home.org. They are a series of tips aimed at preventing marital infidelity. I think they are so successful that copied them below:
An innocent friendship: Jill gives an example. A father living at home in our neighborhood has become my best friend, told a young mother. We will together with the children to the Park, to buy, even Cook together once a month; It is a large type, said the woman. It is clear that she had no idea of the danger of this seemingly harmless situation, then wrote Jill Savage in an article. The story is always the same: the unfaithful spouse developed a relationship that started out as an innocent friendship, with someone who can talk, someone who listened you, worry about you.
Each is tempted by his own desires that attract you and seduce; These wishes, once conceived, engender the sin, and Sin, once grown, engenders death, cited the letter of Santiago 1 Jill, 14-15.
Planting a protection fence: need to plant a hedge of protection around our marriage, i.e., decisions, in advance, to keep the temptation away and make the marriage a priority,
Caution 1: choose wisely. Avoid spending unnecessary time with someone of the opposite sex. For example, if you are looking for a personal trainer in the gym, choose better to someone of the same sex as you.
Caution 2: shared wisely. If one day you realize that you're sharing with anyone secrets and secrets about yourself and your marriage that has not shared with your husband or you wouldn't, that's a warning signal. An emotional mess with someone, even if it fails to be sexual, can also do much harm to the relationship.
Caution 3: seeks to be in public places. Get the purpose of not to mention you alone with someone of the opposite sex. If a partner invites you to eat or will you join. get to come and a third person. Not titubees to explain, if necessary, so you have agreed it with your spouse. It can serve to lead by example.
Caution 4: don't be innocent. Most of the people who ends up having a mess didn't want it; infidelity begins as an innocent relationship that ends up reaching an emotional depth that crosses the line of fidelity.
Caution 5: increases your investment in home. Strong marriages are spending time together, laughing together, playing together. If you don't have appointments with your partner, already planned appointments for the coming months and spend time together make a priority.
Caution 6: pay attention to what you think. If all day thinking about the failures of your spouse, if the time you spend thinking he or she focuses on criticisms and defects, it is easy that anyone else can seem better and appeals to you. Make a list in writing of the strengths that you initially attracted your partner. Increases the encourage and support and reduces the criticisms.
Caution 7: do not play to compare. We all have bad habits, hobbies, and errors. It is very cheat to compare to your wife or husband with a new acquaintance, because the newcomer not we are seeing in the real world, in the world of share ceiling, caring for children at three in the morning, squaring accounts, etc...
Caution 8: looking for help. Seeking help is a sign of strength, not of weakness. Get help who is willing to give battle, it is a first step in force. A Christian family therapist, a good counselor, etc... You will be given a serene, valuable, perspective to establish new strategies to protect or defend or rebuild your marriage